As a 2x burnout survivor & former people-pleaser, I am a speaker, author & passionate advocate for serving others while honoring yourself. I’m the owner of The Robe Way & an authority on achieving customer success with less work. I help business owners run profitable, impactful businesses & maintain client relationships without sacrificing personal boundaries or quality of life. On a regular day, you’ll find me traveling, belting out random songs, smiling contagiously, or lifting others up.
This morning, the Lord reminded me of a critical part of my burnout and people-pleasing story. He reminded me of when I left the church and checked out on Him for almost a year and a half. I am not ashamed of this experience. I thought it was necessary at the time. I just never…
On a night when I would rather have been out and about in Tilaran town in Costa Rica, the Lord prompted me to rewatch one of my favorite movies Redeeming Love. “Pay close attention to the marriage scenes,” the Lord whispered. After tears upon tears, I finished the movie with a new understanding of marriage and…
Happy new year, my friend! I am sitting here reflecting on my first fully solo trip to Costa Rica, a country where the natives don’t speak my native language, and I barely speak theirs. One of the things I grew to appreciate is the kindness of strangers during a time when “basic human decency” is…
At 30 years old, there are two questions I get asked quite a lot. Why are you single? Why are you still a virgin? The answers to both these questions are linked…and definitely not what most people think. A common assumption is that I’m a virgin because I am a Christian. And that I am…
I almost got swept away by strong river currents last week. As I reflected on the moment, the Lord dropped a bombshell on me about men’s roles as leaders and women’s submissiveness that I’d like to share with you. But first, let me share the story of my near drowning. My friend and I visited…
Read more A Near Drowning – A Lesson In Male Leadership & Female Submission
“Get in the box, you Jezebel!” If you’ve watched the movie, Barbie, you probably instantly recognize that famous Will Ferrell line. He screamed it in irritation as Barbie takes too long to reenter the box that would return things to “normal”. But this post is not about people who try to force us into “normal”…
One of the most frequent questions I get is “When are you getting married?” For many years that question made me uncomfortable because my dream was to be married by my 25th birthday. But you know what? I’m really glad that I didn’t get married at 25 like I planned and others expected. Growing up,…
Read more Marriage at 25 Would Have Been The Worst Thing for Me. How Ready Are You?
I was said to be one of the nicest person ever but I was a horrible friend for years. And I had no clue. Let me share the back story. A few years ago, when my corporate and church career were just taking off, my friends from other spheres of my life often invited me…
“Chañel, give it all away to charity…” 🤔 The first time I heard the Holy Spirit whisper to me about the book’s proceeds. I ignored Him. I must have heard wrong. He raised it multiple times over the next year. At some point, I began to bargain. “God, how about 10%? I mean that’s a…
I’m about to burst a big myth about the best place to write a book. I wrote most of “In Search of the Pink Flamingo” in a steel panyard as I spent time with my friend, Sunshine, in Canada. My laptop and I had the time of our lives (cue the Dirty Dancing reference) as…
Read more The weird place I wrote my book + the surprising benefit
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