I had a conversation with one of my best friends the other day. During this conversation we touched briefly on the fact that while I was heading towards broke, he was at broke. When I heard, I had no qualms or reservations about offering my aid until he got paid. What struck me was his reply, “No man, I’m good. *Name of fiancée* has got me.”
You can just imagine my wide-eyed response. I was shocked! I found myself musing over that response for a few days and even now I am still shocked by it.

I have always said that I would never choose a partner on the basis of his wealth. In fact, I can honestly say that I find the idea of gold-digging quite distasteful. Having a partner who you know has you locked spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially, if needed or he/she wants to, should be the rage.

It’s very nice to have someone who you know without a doubt has got you. I am a hard worker and growing up I was taught to be very independent. A rich man has little appeal to me because I realized that riches does not guarantee character. What I am interested in is the SECURITY of knowing that my guy has got me covered on all fronts.

A partner should do things for you, not because you expect or demand that he/she should do it but rather because he/she truly wants to and sees it as a way to make your life easier or delightful. He/she should have you covered even if it’s just the extra push you need to do something that you are scared of doing but that he/she knows you were born to do. While it is nice to hear your partner profess love, it’s delightful and invigorating when it is demonstrated. That’s love.

While finances play an integral part to any relationship, it should never be the key role. Your relationship should be based on the security of your partner’s love for you and their willingness to do what he/she can to get you where you are going.

I don’t know about you but I prefer the surety of being able to say on any given day: “No worry! *Inserts partner’s name* has got me.”

XOXO
Chañel.

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