Nothing boosts your ego like you stepping out of the house feeling that on the SEXY SCALE of 1-10 you rate a 11 for FREAKING HOT! And an added bonus to make your inner goddess don her stiletto boots and do a strut with an extra swing in her hips (borrowing the Ana Steele slang) is when the opposite sex not only notices but acknowledges it. Personally, although I hate the “Psssssstttt” tire-blown sound and won’t openly acknowledge it, sometimes I can’t help producing an inner grin as my inner goddess gives herself a high-five.

Later that night you return home, scrub the makeup off, take down your hair and if you have natural hair like me, you don a satin wrap. Next you kick off the stiletto boots and put on your favourite night-shirt (especially if it’s a hot summer night). Now as your inner goddess curls up on the couch and stretches, you flash a “I know something you don’t” smile and take a selfie. Within an hour, you have garnered over 100 likes.

Two different personas. One person. But they both have something in common. CONFIDENCE. Marcus Garvey is known for saying “If you don’t have confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life.” While he is right and I do power through my general life on this quote, for this post I say “If you ain’t got confidence in self, then your sexy is worth nothing.” Confidence is a vital point in selling the sexy product. It is the fuel needed to drive the car. In essence you have to believe it in order to achieve it.

A few years ago, I ended up in a “kinda relationship”. You know the ship that you can’t determine if you and the guy are in or not but you feel guilty if you try to jump onto another passing ship? Yes, that “kinda ship”. By the time it ended, I was dealing with some serious self-esteem issues. I had lost my confidence zulu and with it, my belief that I was sexy. No matter how dolled up I got, I just didn’t feel sexy and therefore I was unable to project sexy.

This continued for months and it took a full-length mirror and one of my male friends pointing out all the things that he liked about my physical appearance for me to begin believing again. He reminded me that no one is perfect and that I shouldn’t just focus on the things I didn’t like (or rather the things my “kinda ship” boyfriend had been nice enough to demonstrate hatred of) but rather on my physical strengths and ROCK THEM.

Today, whether I’m going out or relaxing at home, I’m still confident in the fact that I am sexy and you should be too. You don’t need to change your hair colour to look great. You don’t need to wear makeup to look hot. You don’t need the shortest or the tightest. You don’t need to be skinny or put on more weight. All you need is a healthy dose of CONFIDENCE, a SMILE and a “GIRL YOU’VE GOT THIS” ATTITUDE.

GO STRUT YOUR STUFF CUZ GIRL , YOU’VE GOT THIS…!

XOXO

Chañel

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