After reading Steve Harvey’s “Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man“, I decided to make some drastic changes in my life. Some of the lessons that Steve pointed out can be exercised in both your relationships and your day-to-day lives. One of the concepts that struck my heart was “Train Others How to Treat You”.
Perhaps we have all been to that point in our lives where we have had a lapse of judgement because we found a significant other who made our hearts do “bum-flicks” (aka cartwheels). Before we know it, we find ourselves compromising our beliefs and instead of being treated like the kings/queens we are, we are treated as though our affection and sacrifices made are worthless.
In hindsight, when we look back at our behaviors, we realize that we have no one to blame but ourselves because we never taught that significant other how to treat us. We never set any standards and demanded that they be met, we just gave and never asked for anything in return. Can we then wonder why we never got the respect we deserved? Can we wonder why our sacrifices were never appreciated?
Set standards and we will get the treatment that we expect and deserve. It is simple 1 + 1 = 2 math.
Being pretty (and I say this as a fact, without being haughty) and friendly (I like to smile a lot), I have had my fair share of unwanted male attention even in the workplace! I have had experiences where males tried to get me to give out hugs so that they could touch my butt and even cases where my breasts got groped! I would go out of my way to avoid scenes like this but still they would occur and being a nice individual I wouldn’t report the incidents because I didn’t want to get anyone fired for such a trivial matter.
I was generally peeved about the entire thing then I realized something. It had nothing to do with what I wore (I’m an Apostolic, I don’t wear tight clothes or even pants) but rather with my general behavior. I was TOO friendly and thus, these men saw my friendliness as a green-light to attack my person. So, I changed my behavior towards them. I no longer smiled as wide or joked around. I treated them not as friends but rather as acquaintances and soon their entire demeanor changed to what I expected and wanted.
Steve Harvey sure knows what he is talking about.
As children, our parents trained us to exhibit the behavior they wanted us to display. As adults we CAN and SHOULD train others how to treat us!
I am a dynamic young lady who loves the Lord and seek to have a joy that no one can take away. My all-time favourite thing to do is gaining discoveries by design from My Father during our time each day. Reading, learning and trying new things falls behind in a close second place. My dream is to use my God-given talents to positively impact as many people as possible. As a proud Wolmerian, with a zest for life, I adhere to the “Age Quod Agis” motto in that whatsoever I do, I always do it to the best of my ability.